The Exgay Life!
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Vmeet 7 “The Exgay Lifestyle” (July 2008)
1. Three kinds of Choices when choosing ones sexual
lifestyle …
· The “Natural”
choice / The Forced Choice / The
Redeemed Choice
2. Becoming an exgay- simply means … one has decided to
reject the homosexual lifestyle. This decision is…
· The first and most
important step for every exgay
· Only the beginning
for the exgay individual
· An ongoing
decision – as long as one decides to continue being an exgay
3. The ex-gay lifestyle…
· Is not a sexual
orientation – it is a lifestyle
· Is a freedom of
choice for any homosexual / bisexual individual
· Could be embraced
for a season OR for a lifetime
4. Every ex-gay is in the journey. It is not true that
every exgay is having a heterosexual orientation. One could be having…
A homosexual orientation / a bisexual orientation / a
heterosexual orientation / an asexual orientation
5. The primary differences between an ex-gay and a
pro-gay:
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The ex-gay
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The pro-gay
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Looking at people of
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Looking at people of
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Looking at people of
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Looking at people of
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Chooses to think,
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Chooses to think,
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6. The development of one’s Sexual Lifestyle:
Thought
Life ►Singular Acts ► Habit ► Lifestyle ► Destiny
7. Some reasons for adopting the exgay lifestyle…
Fed
up of the pro-gay lifestyle, Religion, Guilt, Family, Peer pressure & etc
8. Upon completing ones 3 years of Basic Recovery – the
exgay has TWO lifestyle to choose from;
· The heterosexual
lifestyle (which is NOT the only option – like most people think)
· The celibate
lifestyle. Many exgays are living the celibate lifestyle. Exgays who are living
the celibate lifestyle are NOT “second graded” ex-gay – like some people think
so.
9. No perfect human being, no perfect Christian… SO no
perfect ex-gay. Many ex-gays can still be tempted in the area of homosexuality.
No human being lives without temptation- though everyone is tempted
differently. Temptation is NOT a sin. When an ex-gay falls, it does not mean
he/she is over as an ex-gay.
10. Many
misunderstand and think that the exgay is the same as the bisexual. Here are
some basic differences…
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The ex-gay lifestyle
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The bisexual lifestyle
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Living
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Living
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Ex-gays
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Bisexuals
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11. Basic steps
for a successful ex-gay
· Resolving the
three human Triggers issues (The Self Issue, The Vacuum issue and the Barrier Issue)
· Being part of an
exgay community
· Learning and unlearning
information so to build an ex-gay thought life
*Sharing Session…
· Share one NEW thing that u learned today.
· Do you believe that exgays can live a happy life? If
yes – why? If no – why?
“Real Love
brings Real Life”
